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When Your Family Cannot Support You

Everyone has them. Those people in your lives who make you feel as though there is nothing you can do that will make them proud of you.  It doesn’t matter if you are the most successful, most beautiful, richest, kindest or most compassionate person - they will not be able to fully support you with unconditional love.

They criticize everything you do.

They judge your choices.

They seem to take every step possible to try and make you feel as though you are not enough.

It’s exhausting.  It’s infuriating.  And it’s something that you can overcome easily by understanding that these people cannot support you for 2 very simple reasons, and if you can comprehend and fully embrace these reasons described below, you'll have a much better perspective from which you can approach these family members who dismiss you and your dreams.

It all starts with this:

If they praise you for all that you do, it shines a spotlight on all that they are not doing.


Every experience we have in this life is important, and the experiences with other people act as a mirror for you.  At this point, you know through the lessons on vibration and meditation, that when someone triggers you, it's a signal for you to look within and understand why they trigger you.  That person is acting as a mirror for you - showing you what needs to be healed within you.

Just as they act as a mirror for you, the same is true in reverse.  You are someone else's trigger. You are the mirror for others, and when someone cannot support you or move past their own insecurities, it's not because of YOU. It's because of what you're showing them.  It's because of how you're illuminating something inside of them that needs to be healed.


The reality is that a lot of people would rather tear you down and push you away than look at themselves. It's far easier for someone to cut you down than it is to ask themselves why you're triggering them so much.

It takes an extremely strong person to be able to look in the mirror of life and see it for the growth it brings, and to see it for the lessons it can teach.

The people who do not support you are stuck in their own heads. They are stuck underneath of their own baggage, and nothing you do will be able to pull them out of it.  They must want to change. They must desire that shift.

The lesson for you is this:  When someone judges you, they are really only judging what's hurting inside of themselves.  That is none of your business. 

You cannot save someone who doesn't want to be saved, and you cannot control the actions of another person.  You can only control how you feel, and how you respond.  Your vibration is the only thing you should be focused on.  Which brings me to my second reason your family cannot currently support you:

Unconditional love + support is a high vibe feeling. 

When someone is lingering in a low vibration of jealousy, irritation, competition, or resentment, they cannot support you.  Support and unconditional love are a high vibration feeling, and if someone is hanging out in a low vibe state, it's nearly impossible for them to get there.  You cannot receive high vibe support from a low vibe person.

The only option you have is to witness where they are at in their lives, appreciate the contrast it is bringing for them, and send them love.  The only option you have is to focus on your own alignment and vibration because in order for you to continue receiving what you desire in this life, you must learn to maintain a high vibration.

Here's the best part: when you feel high vibe, you raise the vibration of those around you naturally. Well being is our natural state, and when you are embracing your own well being and you are rising into a higher vibration, the people around you benefit. So that when you are in a high vibration state, and you encounter someone who typically cannot support you, they are less likely to be as critical because it will feel especially bad to them.  You are less likely to care if they are, because your high vibration acts like a buffer.

The bottom line is that you must maintain your own frequency in order to navigate all of the negativity in this world. Whether it's directed at you, someone you love, or just general world-hate, the only option for you is to choose to feel good when everyone around you would choose to feel bad.  Do not let your vibration fall into the trenches and you'll see that the triggers lessen, the judgement you feel from others is less toxic to you, and you'll find that you start manifesting a whole hell of a lot of what you want in this life.  Including a tribe of people who can genuinely support you for who you are and are cheering for you at every turn.







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